Wednesday, 10 February 2016

The importance of female friendship

From a young age we're taught that having loads of friends makes you cool, that being part of the 'popular gang' is what's important, because being liked and being surrounded by people, whether you like them or not, is the measurement of your success.

Yet as we grow older, we realise that what has defined us as children, isn't actually true at all. As the end of life at university is fast approaching, I can count my true friends, the people who will without a doubt remain a significant part of my life on one hand. And I'm completely okay with that. Not only am I okay with it actually, I'm really truly happy and appreciative and thankful for having met such genuinely great people.

I mean, I've met and been surrounded by some real stinkers too, but that's life isn't it. Meeting people, getting to know people and then cherry picking the special ones, the ones who lift you up high, who support you, who laugh and cry and drink with you. Female friendship is one of the most important things you can have, and to find fellow ladies who you love, and who love you, is no mean feat but when you do find them, you know.

We all struggle with feelings of jealously and the temptation to compare ourselves to the success of fellow females is so incredibly hard to overcome sometimes but another person’s success does not mark our own failures. As females, we’re pitted against each other from an early age but we’re simply competitors running the same race and what’s the point in crossing the finish line with no one to celebrate with?

Friendship isn’t snidey remarks disguised in the form of a joke, it isn’t radio silence when you succeed or whispers behind your back. Because you can ignore that for a while, and focus on the great qualities that person has, but after a period of time the negativity they emit seeps into your mind and affects how you lead your life.

It can come in all shapes and sizes, but for me, friendship is lifting you up so high when you’re doing well and succeeding and achieving what you’ve been working so hard at, but at the same time calling you out if you’re being a bit of a dick. It’s encouraging you to keep going when you’re ready to give up and quit but be there ready and waiting with a bottle of wine if things eventually don’t work out. It’s being honest without being cruel, being friendly without being fake and when it all comes down to it, it’s liking you for being you and only you.

We all go on a journey to find out who we want to be and what we want to do in order to live our best, fullest and happiest life and having strong, likeminded ladies around us is important in discovering exactly what that is.

Genuine friends really are one of life’s greatest treasures so here's to friendship, because let's be honest, it really is pretty damn great, isn't it.

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